Date: 2018-04-16 00:58
Learning how to communicate is not a shame. People take a keen interest in the way we present ourselves and that 8767 s what you need to take care of. However, when on a dating site or Tinder App, you are likely judged before you even speak up. So, you need to keep you profile attractive to do the talking.
I've been on Plenty of fish, okCupid, and since November. It is now April. On PoF, I got lots of views, but the only message was an offer to sell me drugs. On okCupid, I didn't even get but a few views, and no messages at all. On I got lots of views and lots of winks, but only from guys out of the state, and again, no messages. On and PoF, I even tried messaging guys first, but no responses. Almost all of friends married guys they met on these sites, but I have no idea how they did it.
You can 8767 t invest time or money on an online lead. You don 8767 t know each other, and the minimum expectation is that the other person is not ugly. Nothing else.
Online dating has been the biggest waste of time in my entire life. Literally. I sent out over 655 personalized messages, and not one date.
It&rsquo s weird to me because if I didn&rsquo t normally have girls asking me out in real life, or showing that they are attracted to me, I&rsquo d probably start to develop a complex or something. Maybe I&rsquo m just not really portraying myself very well in my profile or something. I&rsquo m not sure what it is.
Then I started talking to my female friends. They all had pretty good conversation rates, getting anywhere from 5-75 messages per day. And their conversations tended to last if they wanted it to. What I realized was the dynamic was completely different women naturally start becoming a lot more arbitrarily selective because of this constant initiation. If you don't stand out with your picture as a man you're doomed to failure: all the Marissa's in the world will think of the best looking man that they've slept with, say "given the field I can do better", and move on without a second thought. Whether or not you would be a great fit, whether or not you're a secret agent or a millionaire. It's totally arbitrary.
The college-educated and those in their mid-twenties through mid-forties are especially likely to use online dating sites.
Male loyalty to females is really strong. I will never understand why men continue to think marriage is such a great idea.